Okay...dumped again by the same guy..again and again and again..
I should know better...Slap me stupid if I ever am stupid enough to fall for dumbass lies and lines again.
I didn't go back to the same woman again and again, but i did leave my house, my family, and married a woman on a biker site, and moved out of state only to find she had a boyfriend. It took me 6 months to find it out...The hell of it is we had great sex, my pubic bone was bruised all the time, and she was on the internet talking to ol boy....That is something i wont do again...ever.. A relationship again, probably, marry again, "never" I am done with that...
Sorry to hear this BH I hope your ok. BELEIVE me your not the first to listen to the same old crap from the past. Hang in there sweetie.
Now come here ...... SLAP!
then over here.........SLAP-SLAP
{{being stupid left me at age 22.....then again at age 25...then again at age 36...and again at f*cken 37..soooo g/f, do to lack of more years i'm still hold'n smart with a strong - firm grip!!!!.....hehehe..peace hun, atleast now you have that s*it down and if you listen to your "gut" instead of your heart or your pu-tang (sound that out, not really sure how you'd spell't) you'll be steps ahead for the future as*holes that rock your world}}..
MikeZ write:
I agree, we've all been there.
Take it as a learning experience and move on. I've been looking for a loyal, sincere woman for a long time. We are just like you ladies.... it's hard to find a down to Earth, loyal, good woman these days. If there are some out there, Please move closer to St. Louis!!
I believe I am about as close as your going to get
MikeZ write:
I agree, we've all been there.
Take it as a learning experience and move on. I've been looking for a loyal, sincere woman for a long time. We are just like you ladies.... it's hard to find a down to Earth, loyal, good woman these days. If there are some out there, Please move closer to St. Louis!!
I believe I am about as close as your going to get
MikeZ write:
I agree, we've all been there.
Take it as a learning experience and move on. I've been looking for a loyal, sincere woman for a long time. We are just like you ladies.... it's hard to find a down to Earth, loyal, good woman these days. If there are some out there, Please move closer to St. Louis!!
I believe I am about as close as your going to get
BHG...TRY NOT TO FEEL TOO BAD ABOUT IT.....I ALWAYS WENT FOR THE "SAME GUY DIFFERENT FACE"....TILL PEOPLE KEPT ASKING ME .."WHAT IS THE DEFFINITION OF INSANITY"...(DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS)...WELL I DECIDED TO TAKE THE SIGN OFF MY HEAD THAT SAID "EVERYONE WITH A PROBLEM INQUIRE WITHIN"...JUST HANG IN THERE....GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE....IT JUST PROVES YOU HAVE A HEART THAT YOUR WILLING TO SHARE.. AND YOUR HEART IS SPECIAL.....SO KEEP IT SAFE UNTIL SOMEONE SHOWS YOU THEY DESERVE TO HAVE IT!.....MO
blondeharleygirl write:
Okay...dumped again by the same guy..again and again and again..
I should know better...Slap me stupid if I ever am stupid enough to fall for dumbass lies and lines again.
Hey there BHG, I hope you don't let this get you down darlin, because it is HIS loss not yours. With looks like you have, and what seems to be a great personality (by the posts I've read) your going to end up with a great person in your life if you should choose to do so. You seem like a very genuine person with a bunch of beauty to go with that. God was good to you darlin. Know that.
Thank you so much for those sweet words of kindness. It is good to hear words like that spoken from men, too.
SoftailLeila write:
BHgirl, been there. Was with someone, more like an addiction. Knew he was no good for me and left him but went back a couple of times. After I got over the pain of the thing, I looked at the situation and realized that no matte how I felt about him, he was no good for me and the relationship would never be one that I could be who I had discovered I am. Good luck. Old habits are hard to break but sometimes it's the best thing! Peace.
I did the same thing..That is why I didn't go back. I knew no matter what I felt for him, it was no good. It was the most verbally abusive relationship I had ever been in, and he was the most verbally abusive person I have ever in my life known, inside or outside of a relationship. And I weighed and considered the "do I think he can change" aspect, you know how they do the "it won't happen again" stuff, but I looked back at HIS history with relationships, looked at his relationships with other women, his family, etc. and realized something was wrong with every relationship in his life, not just me, and knew there was more to the story, so I left, and every time I had the tugs at the heart, I thought about those things, and stayed strong.
hay, bhg...i went as far as remarring the , lieing, cheating, coniving, manipulating creep...even after i knew what he was like the first time around....so SLAP ME PLEASE!!!
whatg was thinking?????so take a number and stand in line for the "SLAP SQUAD" cause we are all in the front of the line when it comes to being guilty of that back and forth game ....if you had been the only one to ever do that i would say your crazy....but there are to many of us to think it is an isolated situation...so do not be hard on yourself...and makes me believe that it is not the exception but the rule....aj
jadeeyes write:
Hey BlondeHarleyGirl-
You are not alone- I patterned with a guy through all of my 20's (what a waste of time)now that I look back. Back and Forth for almost 9yrs. couldn't get him out of my system. Then when we broke up we were apart for 5yrs Saw him after that and went back immediately. We lasted 6months and than it was finally over. And I never looked back again. And grew out of him. So when your ready to let go you will.
Thanks Jade..I let go..boy did I ever let go..problem didn't so much become me letting go after that, the problem more became where could I hide? It was a rough experience. One that I will never, ever forget, believe me, and one that I will absolutely cherish as a learning experience and a foundation for "this is your brain, this is what the h e l l were you thinking brain"
BHgirl, been there. Was with someone, more like an addiction. Knew he was no good for me and left him but went back a couple of times. After I got over the pain of the thing, I looked at the situation and realized that no matte how I felt about him, he was no good for me and the relationship would never be one that I could be who I had discovered I am. Good luck. Old habits are hard to break but sometimes it's the best thing! Peace.
Hey BlondeHarleyGirl-
You are not alone- I patterned with a guy through all of my 20's (what a waste of time)now that I look back. Back and Forth for almost 9yrs. couldn't get him out of my system. Then when we broke up we were apart for 5yrs Saw him after that and went back immediately. We lasted 6months and than it was finally over. And I never looked back again. And grew out of him. So when your ready to let go you will.
Carmenzant write:
It's sad to say, but it takes some of us longer than others to "get it"...we live and we learn, thankfully!
I admire your strength, BHG
Not to say I haven't been there..stayed in a bad marriage for a long time..turned the other cheek because it was easier and thought other's didn't know what I knew..after I found out the whole freakin town knew, and more. Your right, live and learn.
Carmenzant write:
A great friend helped OPEN my eyes after I repeatedly "loved and lost" with the same guy over a three year period...he told me: the definition of INSANITY is going back into the SAME situation time and time again and expecting DIFFERENT results!
That's good advice, what your friend told you Carmen. Of course, if I listened to it that would mean I'd have to stop with this BK thing....
No, I wouldn't keep going back that long..I'd have killed him before that..or the other way around..I have patience, but not that damn much..
Eye_m_no_angel write:
I believe LeggyBrunette had the woodchipper last? Wash it out girl, and send it on to BHG. We'll take care of this problem once and for all.
Eye..the dumb blonde that I am, just ran into some old friends of his last night, thought old friends should be reunited..seems they just needs a little sense of direction was all.
TheBossZZ4 write:
There's an asshole for every seat. So we've all had our share, and feel for ya hun. Hope you're doing better.
Thanks...doing fine..went out last night..had a little "adventure"..he was there..with someone..felt sorry for her as she was there as sculture to give him reason to keep his eye on me..made sure I knew he was there for quite some time..stayed safe though..poor Doc..but ran into some old "friends" of his..seems they lost him for awhile..they just needed some direction...
BHG, a little late reading this post. Sorry to hear of your heartache. You are a beautiful woman & there is somebody out there worthy of you. (That is what I keep telling myself anyway.) Keep you chin up & keep smiling. Take care g/f.
True, Eye man, very true! But at least here, being beaten down is pretty funny and definitely entertaining...it's all good!! I love how you people keep coming back for more!
